I remember standing in the kitchen between trips to the
laundry when Abby walked up once again and sweetly asked, “Mommy, can we take
Birdie on a walk?” I think I sighed and with a somewhat frustrated breath said
something about all of the different things we needed to get done and
apologized for how busy we were. Her shoulders lowered a little, and she said,
“OK,” while walking away. For the first time, I had looked at her when she
asked me about walking the dog. I stopped and asked her, “Abby, do you really
want to walk the dog or is it that you really want to talk to me?” My little
nine-year-old looked up at me with her big brown eyes and said, “Both.”
Teary-eyed Mommy immediately dropped everything and said, “Let’s go now!”
Thank God, I finally listened. As much as I love my dog and
walks with her, there were so many “things” that needed to be done over the
weekend. There just didn’t seem to be time. But this wasn’t really about
walking the dog; it was about my daughter. If I had stopped long enough to be honest, I would
have realized there is time for it all. The “things” are not totally important,
the ones we love are.
Thank God, I finally listened. Abby asking me to walk the
dog that day felt like some sort of request for child entertainment akin to can
I play with glitter, can I make this 98-step jewelry kit that requires a hot
glue gun, can you take me to Chuck E. Cheese, etc. I wasn’t listening. I wasn’t
paying attention to the way she was asking me. I didn’t realize that Abby
didn’t know how to say, “I need some time with you to talk.”
Thank God, I finally listened. My little girl needed to
establish a way to connect with me that included her unique independence while
gaining some perspective from a trusted source. I didn’t think about how a walk
with Birdie and mom would give her special time to talk during a fun activity
that both took off the pressure of a sit down heart-to-heart and also didn’t
include little brother and daddy.
Thank God, I finally listened because she still asks me to
go on walks with Birdie.
My own daddy, who worked more hours than I can imagine took
time to walk to the end of the street and back with me and my sisters when he
got home before the sun set. We all remember the watermelon swing, the
trampoline at the end of the street and the turn back up the hill. We still
call him to talk because he listens.
Dear God, Sometimes we really need to stop and listen.
Please give us the strength and compassion to do so with our whole hearts.
Thank you for this great gift!
With love and light,
LT